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Tony Mellor

Once an addict and now nominated for Drug Worker of the year, Tony Mellor joins us at Inexcess as our man on the street. Tony's no nonsense, straight forward approach will be a shock for some and a breath of fresh air for many. Stay tuned to hear more from Tony and his unique perspective on the world.

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The Road to Recovery


Posted by Tony Mellor on Wednesday, March 24th, 2010

I have been looking back at the Liverpool Road to Recovery event. The work about perspectives on transference really encouraged me to sit back and take notice of how this could help both drug workers and people in recovery. It’s something we could all learn from.

Also found this video about step work. Enjoy!

Gary Null’s Seven Steps to Total Health - Step 2

Argument!


Posted by Tony Mellor on Thursday, February 25th, 2010

Someone sent me the following link after they attended the Road to Recovery event: I have been looking at it and I think it is fantastic! I believe that is it a great support tool for all of us who are constantly looking at ourselves and trying to grow – it helps with the projection and processing.

mindfulconstruct.com/6-reasons-why-you-never-need-to-win-an-argument

After the event I have had to look at myself on the big screen and everyone else says likewise! I love it!

Over and out
Grateful 2Tone

The Pencil: love and compassion


Posted by Tony Mellor on Tuesday, February 16th, 2010

Hi all, below is a story about a pencil; no I haven’t lost the plot, but I think that it has a really valuable message behind it and everyone can use the story and apply it to their own life.

I hope you ‘get it’! Let me know what you think if you get the chance.

Over and out
2Tone


The Pencil

Take small account of might, wealth and fame, for they soon pass and are forgotten. Instead, nurture love within you and strive to be a friend to all. Truly, compassion is a balm for many wounds.

The Pencil Maker took the pencil aside, just before putting him into the box. “There are 5 things you need to know,” he told the pencil, “Before I send you out into the world. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best pencil you can be:

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in Someone’s hand.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, but you’ll need it to become a better pencil.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what’s inside.

And Five: On every surface you are used on, you must leave your mark. No matter what the condition, you must continue to write.”

The pencil understood and promised to remember, and went into the box with purpose in its heart. Now replacing the place of the pencil with you. Always remember them and never forget, and you will become the best person you can be.

One: You will be able to do many great things, but only if you allow yourself to be held in God’s hand. And allow other human beings to access you for the many gifts you possess.

Two: You will experience a painful sharpening from time to time, by going through various problems in life, but you’ll need it to become a stronger person.

Three: You will be able to correct any mistakes you might make.

Four: The most important part of you will always be what’s on the inside.

And Five: On every surface you walk through, you must leave your mark. No matter what the situation, you must continue to do your duties.

Allow this parable on the pencil to encourage you to know that you are a special person and only you can full fill the purpose to which you were born to accomplish.
Never allow yourself to get discouraged and think that your life is insignificant and cannot make a change.

Spiral of addiction


Posted by Tony Mellor on Wednesday, February 10th, 2010

Hello everyone

Well 2010 is well and truly underway. The event on the 28th January got me thinking about the services offered, the journey of recovery and myself.

I believe that for many people this is the time to make a choice and decided which path they want to go down; the journey of recovery or the spiral of addiction?

I was watching The Matrix on the TV the other day and at one point Morpheus has to decide between taking a red pill or a blue pill, so in a way he was having to make a choice about which ‘path’ he was going to go down

“You take the blue pill. The story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill. You stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.”

–Morpheus, The Matrix

In The Matrix, the blue pill symbolizes ignorance; clinging to security, instead of searching for truth. Blue pills are all over the personal development map. Personal development is supposed to be about self growth, being more productive, improving your health, building your confidence, and tackling challenges so that they are used to enhance your wisdom, response ability to life, compassion, and gratitude. All of which translate to emotional resilience through mindfulness.

But most of the time, personal development is about losing weight, going on more dates, making better pay, avoiding pain, meditating for the wrong reasons, becoming more complacent, shoving your Ego aside, being happier for the sake of appearances, striving for superficial passion, and faking optimism. These are all blue pills, distractions from what’s really important.

They keep you asleep. Unaware of your real goals, beliefs, values, dreams, and aspirations. And they keep you from embracing your emotional self, especially all the hurts and the dark and scary places.

Have a look at this following link as it can help us all with our own journey of recovery. Blue pill or red pill, what will you chose?

http://mindfulconstruct.com/

Over and out
2Tone

Road to Recovery


Posted by Tony Mellor on Friday, January 29th, 2010

Wow, what a busy week it has been! The ‘Road to Recovery’ event on the 28th January was the result of months of hard work and I was honoured to be a part of the day and take my place on stage. Byron Katie was inspirational and it was an honour to have met her.

In the aftermath of the event I have come across this across this written piece and thought that it complements everything. Have a read and let me know what you think.

2Tone

As A Man Thinketh

This little volume (the result of meditation and experience) is not intended as an exhaustive treatise on the much-written upon subject of the power of thought. It is suggestive rather than explanatory, its object being to stimulate men and women to the discovery and perception of the truth that -

“They themselves are makers of themselves”

by virtue of the thoughts which they choose and encourage; that mind is the master weaver, both of the inner garment of character and the outer garment of circumstance, and that, as they may have hitherto woven in ignorance and pain they may now weave in enlightenment and happiness.

James Allen

To read more, click on the following link: http://jamesallen.wwwhubs.com/think.htm

Meaning under each and every circumstance


Posted by Tony Mellor on Monday, January 11th, 2010

Hi everyone!

With all the snow around at the moment, I have been thinking about how old people feel in the cold? This has then led me to a chain of thoughts about a guy called Viktor Frankl, who worked in the snow in a concentration camp and still kept his meaning. It is not what we expect from life, but what life expects of us.

Have a look at the video clip.

I know the picture quality is bad, but the content says so much. Jerry Long had an accident that paralyzed him from the chest down and Viktor Frankl explains how people find meaning under each and every circumstance, beyond physical constrictions.

That’s all for now

Over and out
2Tone