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George Williams

George is the founder and the presenter of inexcess.tv Here in his blog George talks about his inner most thoughts on his journey through recovery, his experiences making the show and shares his insights into the world around us etc.

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Posted by George Williams on Sunday, September 26th, 2010

I find myself in a unique position with inexcess, meeting so many people who turn their lives around from drink and drugs, and finding out what’s working for them. For sure, it’s not one size fits all. I interviewed a guest called Terry recently he said “I have a girlfriend now who believes in me, and when someone believes in you, you start to believe in yourself”.
Another guest Richie said “when you take the drugs out of your life, your life gets better”.
In my own search for recovery I’m inspired at who and what is out there. If you have the desire to change your life, remain open minded and give it all time, you will find it’s not a journey of recovery but one of discovery

What a week


Posted by George Williams on Saturday, February 20th, 2010

What a week its been and all for the good. I’m still charged up with energy form the Road to Recovery 3 weeks ago. I followed my instincts with Byron Katie and feel so proud to have brought her from California to Liverpool. Part 1 of The Work, Closed Minded/Open Minded made the Inexcess platform this week. Watching it back it’s so easy to connect with this very user friendly tool, a mirror of truth. If we are to achieve progress with the recovery community then we must accept it all starts with ourselves. Workers, Carers and people in treatment and recovery.

Part 1 is easy to follow and far more powerful than you may have thought if you where lucky enough to be there on the day. I still hear from people 3 weeks on saying “is it true”. Our thoughts can influence our feelings negatively and in turn our behaviour. In Katie’s words “lets turn it all upside down”. In my personal opinion and on the record I haven’t seen anything as effective and authentic in all my years out there. And that’s a big statement! Change can bring resistance from some people which can evolve into resentment and that’s not healthy.

I spent most of my life feeling confused and this took me to many dark places. Since 5 I have been searching, not really knowing what for but still feeling powerful urges to find answers. Theory after theory, I’m just one of those people but over the last couple of years I’ve come to understand that this is ok, it’s my wiring. Looking back I tried so many things to make me feel more comfortable with myself, to fit in, even just to feel happy. We have a tendency to complicate life, maybe because we don’t understand why we feel the way we do.

Seeking approval, trying not to get hurt, disguising the truth inside with a face for all occasions on the outside. Tony Mellor said to me last year “it’s about modelling it” and he was so right. lot’s of people want to give lots of advice based on their experience and then get frustrated when people don’t take it. This can then lead to resentments, I think we’ve all had a touch of the ball on this. I see many academics and professionals on my journey who need the mirror of truth as much as someone caught in the eye of the storm. We can all change and improve ourselves and should not forget it.

For me it’s not seeking perfection but about being the best I can be, how I connect and interact with the people around me each day. If your not happy in your job, then leave. If your not happy in your relationship, then leave but lets be honest that it’s in our own hands and recognise that those around us are not to blame. They are being themselves and we should respect that. We all have choices and it’s the choices we make that define us.

I’ve caught up on appointments this week in London, and have some great plans to announce for Ukesad 2010 in the coming weeks. Deirdre very kindly captured some great pics from Road to Recovery and can be seen ion the next edition Of Addiction Today.

Next week is a big week, I’m back out on the road, Manchester, Bristol and Exeter. In my search of recovery I’m sharing what I’m learning. Gladly, a lot less confused than I used to be

A New Beginning


Posted by George Williams on Monday, February 15th, 2010

Hi everyone, well I have got to say that “points of view, a new beginning” has made me feel really proud. It’s captured everything I could have wished for from the Road to Recovery. The people, the atmosphere, the shift of attitudes and perceptions.

It is a journey into the unknown, so lets embrace it all. It’s not one size fits all and in my search for recovery I’m definitely meeting many people turning their lives around in an abundance of ways. What’s key however is that we start “within”. Letting go of our fears, anxieties and getting to the truth of it all. Byron Katie has given us a very user friendly tool to help understand how our thoughts are influencing our beliefs and behaviour.

I met a guy struggling by my offices the other day, living rough and sat their looking empty and worthless. This is when you have to stop and take time out, not to preach but to listen. I always try to give people hope and when they’re ready that there is help out there. I told him not to give up, that even in his darkest hour, there can still be light and that he more than anyone had something to offer. You just have to get back on your feet and in with the right crowd.

Obviously I gave him a few quid, not too much, nor too little.

If we care, really care, then lets do something about it. Most of all lets model it ourselves, just the best that we can be. All of this starts with ourselves, it’s amongst our family and friends, within our workplace and community. We are only limited by our imagination and held back by our fears

Than you for all your emails, I enjoy sharing in your journey’s and growth.

What a week


Posted by George Williams on Saturday, February 6th, 2010

Got to tell you all it’s been a roller-coaster of a week. I’ve come to believe that on the eve of breakthrough, it’s the most scary and unsettling. I suppose when you put “all of yourself” into something you believe in, some days you just need a sign.

I played my hand as we say in cards, I put together a channel for recovery, people turning their lives around. Human faces to it all, relational depth. I gave people a window into my life and I opened up with my theories, thoughts and emotions. I’ve sewn seeds and I’m watching them grow. I’ve never been so proud as last Thursday when people took to the stage at The Road to Recovery. The power of people, their journeys, their experiences. A room where so many people just care by nature and it wasn’t fluffy either.

I can’t wait for you all to watch it all back, and those of you who weren’t there I promise it’s amazing.

If you’ve ever been to a football match, quite often you miss so much of the game, even the goals. There can be too many distractions. It’s only when you are home watching match of the day that you realsise how amazing the play was, how you where there when that amazing goal was scored. Well we’ve captured the whole days event and I’m confident it will define the recovery movement and community. It’s powerful stuff.

So I’m just “in the meantime” while I wait for it all to connect.

On Thursday of this week and at very short notice I interviewed Judy Collins. She was performing at Radio Merseyside. It was one of the highlights of my career so far and our interview lasted only 20 minutes or so.

Judy is a legendary folk singer, many of you probably remember “Amazing Grace” or “Send in The Clowns”. I urge you to read her website and over a cup of coffee read about her amazing life. It’s rich and colourful, scarred with heartache and trauma. Her life has been a who’s who of cool and influence, creativity and life changing experiences. Judy sings like an angel, but it’s her passion and vitality I will always remember. I’ve ordered a copy of Sanity and Grace; A Journal of Suicide Survival. She reminded me of someone I would have loved to have met in her youth but was so pleased I got 20 mins now, just to say I met her at all. She’s playing Glastonbury this year, for me she was more rock n roll than rock n roll, she’s got the T shirt and earned it. www.judycollins.com

In my search for recovery I’m meeting the people who are turning their lives around and finding out what’s working for them

Road to Recovery


Posted by George Williams on Friday, January 29th, 2010

What a truly amazing day. Thank you so much to everyone who attended and all the team who helped make it possible. There are many things I’m proud of, and I am privileged to have worked alongside genuine people with so much passion, integrity and experience. So many people on the day cared about other people. How special is that.

We learnt so much, we connected on many levels and there is a genuine belief that we can turn our lives around. For the people who help us, I hope it inspires you to continue, we’re all in this together.

From people taking those first few tentative steps into treatment and recovery, to some highly experienced role models and providers, alongside carers, we achieved so much together.

There was inspiration, debate, discussion, laughter and tears. Our host Nick Mercer was a star and guided us through the whole event with wisdom, humour and 20 years experience under his belt. We were definitely in safe hands.

Byron Katie demonstrated “the work” to a packed audience. She’s the creator of a remarkable and very effective tool that helps people recognise how their thoughts are controlling their feelings and negative behaviour. Katie has brought “the work” to millions of people around the world and the broadcast of her session I guarantee is spellbinding.

There are so many people to thank and be proud of. The short trailer is only a window for only 1 minute on what is a defining moment for the recovery community.
From Tuesday you will be able to start watching the incredible journey that is The Road to Recovery and all the people involved. Thank you for the remarkable support and encouragement you have all given me.

In my unique and privileged position, in my search for recovery, I’m sharing what I’m learning

a WOW feeling


Posted by George Williams on Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

Hello everyone, thought I would share some of how I’m feeling on the eve of The Road To Recovery event on the 28th. I’m excited of course but sometimes I feel sensitive too. I think it’s a bit like finding a piece of the jigsaw that fits, so many other things become clearer. I feel like it’s also something I’ve been working towards all my life but didn’t really know or understand before.

I’m proud of the whole team at Inexcess for helping bring it all together and making it possible. In my unique and privileged position I’ve met people in my own search for recovery who I believe in and respect. As I look back I’m in a different place than even I could have imagined, it’s all new but it feels so right. Recovery for me has been about discovery, of myself. So many people are working at delivering something that we believe in. It’s not about telling anyone what they should be doing but about showing people what’s working for us, what’s possible.

Imagine when we connect, the people and experience in the room. The feeling, in the right place at the right time. The longest journey is started with the first step. Looking back will be how we can learn and grow. Looking forward will only be limited by our imagination. I’m sharing what I’m learning. Thank you for all the positive messages and genuine excitement about our guests and the day ahead. We’re all in this together.

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