Controlling Stress - Father And Son Perspective
Tuesday, May 26th, 2009
This is an interesting and uplifting article written by the Mail (23/05/09). It explores the areas around total ‘burn out’ but with very positive responses. Both father and son work towards a solution, aimed at recovery.
James Koch, was a person who in his mid-twenties thrived on his busy life, until it caught up with him and he suffered complete ‘burn-out’.
James, 30, argues that the late nights and too much drinking to unwind became a significant problem to the extent that he says, I felt physically exhausted, put on weight and just lay awake at night worrying about trivial things that had happened in the day.
‘I went from feeling confident and sociable to being filled with self-doubt. I wanted to shut myself away - and stopped answering the phone to my friends. It took me by complete surprise that I felt vulnerable, emotional and unable to cope with my life.’
However, it was not all gloom and doom for James, as his father, Hugh, an established clinical psychologist was able to identify the extreme indicators of stress. From that point of view, he recommended his son seek help.
James began therapy which spanned an eighteen month period. His recovery consists in the main, of how to deal with everyday factors that lead to stress. He concurs that the whole experience was a positive one.
From his own personal journey, and whilst in therapy, both father and son came up with the concept of writing a book to help others cope with similar situations. Active Steps To Reducing Stress is the title and has the bonus of being endorsed by the charity MIND.
James says, ‘We wanted to focus on the benefits of proper stress control,’ says Hugh. ‘From his personal experiences, James put into practice many of the methods outlined in the book.’
He further adds that, ‘It was something I could do to take my mind off work and relax that didn’t involve drinking or sitting in front of the TV, ‘While I was in therapy I talked to my dad about what I’d been doing there and he’d tell me about practical approaches that worked best with his patients.
‘These techniques can be used by anyone. Rather than wait for a crisis, it’s better to admit we experience stress and then do something to avoid it getting out of hand,’
Ultimately, the work is based on cognitive techniques, using a series of steps which describe how to reduce stress in a positive, practical. The programme also helps in making the individual calmer. Allows the reader to be more relaxed and positive in relation to their everyday experiences. The books aim is to promote the notion of being more in control in your own individual lives