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Friday, November 7th, 2008 Anger Management

Having watched Violent Women: Tonight (8.00pm-03 11 08) this was a programme packed with useful information looking at cause and effect of violence in women.

As a writer there was a fundamental urge to carry out some research and comment further on why seeking anger management is key to resolving issues as opposed to violence.

Monday nights programme featured a reasonably intelligent, middle class background woman called Florence Terry (39) from London.

Intense anger caused Florence Terry, 39, from London, to hit her husband. An anger management course helped her get it under control, and changed her life. She says “the first time I hit my husband was about 14 years ago. I was cross with him and lost my temper. He was upset and I felt dreadful, and cried and apologised. I felt scared and ashamed, but I thought it was a one-off.

“It didn’t happen again for many months, maybe as many as 18 months. During that time there was verbal criticism and crossness from me, but nothing violent. I can’t actually remember the second time I hit him. I’m sorry to say it became a pattern.

“Looking back, I was under a lot of stress from my job as a divorce lawyer, and I was packing my free time with other commitments, such as charity work.”

Moreover, she identified that every few months she would lose her temper.” One minute I’d be talking with a raised voice, and the next my limbs were doing things I didn’t want them to.

Eventually Terry realised she needed help. She saw a leaflet for the British Association of Anger Management (BAAM). Having completed the course Florence was able to say sorry to her husband. Even though the cat reared it’s ugly head again, as a couple with more informed choice they were able to work things through.

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